Learn
from your mistake
You
can only learn from a mistake after you admit you’ve made it. As soon as you
start blaming other people (or the universe itself) you distance yourself from
any possible lesson. But if you courageously stand up and honestly say “This is
my mistake and I am responsible” the possibilities for learning will move
towards you. Admission of a mistake, even if only privately to yourself, makes
learning possible by moving the focus away from blame assignment and towards
understanding. Wise people admit their mistakes easily. They know progress
accelerates when they do.
Learning
from mistakes requires three things:
- Putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes
- Having the self-confidence to admit to them
- Being courageous about making changes
.
First we have to classify the different kinds of mistakes.
The four kinds of mistakes
One
way to categorize mistakes is into these categories:
- Stupid: Absurdly dumb things that just happen. Stubbing your toe, dropping your pizza on your neighbor’s fat cat or poking yourself in the eye with a banana.
- Simple: Mistakes that are avoidable but your sequence of decisions made inevitable. Having the power go out in the middle of your party because you forgot to pay the rent, or running out of beer at said party because you didn’t anticipate the number of guests.
- Involved: Mistakes that are understood but require effort to prevent. Regularly arriving late to work/friends, eating fast food for lunch every day, or going bankrupt at your start-up company because of your complete ignorance of basic accounting.
- Complex: Mistakes that have complicated causes and no obvious way to avoid next time. Examples include making tough decisions that have bad results, relationships that fail, or other unpleasant or unsatisfying outcomes to important things.
............MARIKI HEAVENLIGHT
